It's like a roller-coaster GP. What will happen next!?
Well around middle of July, I sensed my kindness was being treated as weakness, and being confused for niceness and lacking strength. Communications had continued on and off, but there was a lack of respect being shown, and although it was coming from a place of stress, confusion, uncertainty, etc., biting the hand that helps feed you (in this case I had actually provided for food when the situation seemed to call for it) has caused me to change my tact a bit. I've been direct, held my ground, stayed kind, yet held her accountable, and it has produced silence. Acceptably so.
You did the right thing GP. Wish that I had your strength, when I've found myself in a similar situation.
Yep, a continuation of not allowing myself to get caught up in her issues.
One of the interesting things is that I've continued to come through on my words, even though she's opted to be less than genuine and not come thru on her's either. The irony is I had even mentioned after her inappropriate email back in June regarding giving up on the relationship, that I had been planning to give things till the middle of July, and as it turned out, I still did. Although not under the circumstances I had imagined initially.
But she has continued in her stress and unfortunate ways, and when she gave me an opening for potential silence, I need to come through on that now as well. Not easy, it is very tempting to call a spade a spade here again, yet it won't quickly alter the situation nor possibly ever. There is something to be said for silence as a form of communication and even love, whether or not there's ever any communication again.