an English person said its quite the opposite over there. She said most men are too shy and the women usually have to ask them out on a date.
That's kindof my point. Many men, and I see it a lot with "nerdy/geeky" guys, is that they're way too shy/unconfident. There's probably plenty of girls that would go for them, if only they'd ask. That was the lesson I've learned from my current girl, even if it doesn't work out: I'm awesome, and awesome girls are interested in me. So go for it! Especially if, as in my case, she IMs you all the time at work and goes out of her way to talk to you at work (give me a little slack, I wasn't even divorced yet, just separated!).